Have I already told you how amazing our YWAM families are? Well, I’m here to tell you again – we couldn’t be more impressed with their maturity, wisdom and honesty. These folks ‘get it’ when it comes to all the issues surrounding adoption. That’s not to say they aren’t learning as they go – just like we all do.
I have appreciated that many are able to share some of these lessons in parenting adopted children on their blogs. Just recently I’ve read two posts in particular that I don’t want you to miss.
Kristen Halvorson and her husband Glen have adopted four children, three of those from Ethiopia through YWAM. They are in the process of adopting another son from Ethiopia. Kristen writes very candidly and there is a tremendous amount of grace and wisdom to be gleaned from her experience. In a recent post titled “Paper Pregnant at 48” she writes about expectations, being in control and how pain can be an effective teacher. Don’t let the title throw you off – this article is for YOU!
Haley Ballast and her husband Jon brought their son Zeke home in 2010. I often refer families to Haley’s blog because she is a gifted writer who has taken the time to share so many of the things she is learning – in a way that is both relatable and helpful. Her post “Feelings and Grace” is about many of the emotions common to adoptive parents after coming home. This is something we don’t often talk about but it must be said – these feelings are common, normal and very real. You’re not a bad parent for feeling them. Sometimes you can deal with them on your own, with your spouse, with other adoptive parents. Sometimes you’ll need professional help. And that is okay.
Please grab a cup of coffee and spend some time reading these two posts and then read all of Kristen and Haley’s posts. You will be helped and encouraged, I promise! Many thanks to these two moms and to all of our families who share real life and God’s amazing grace in adoption.